Fusion Academy: Childhood Narcissism and ADHD-Like Behavior

first_img Make a comment Community News Pasadena’s ‘626 Day’ Aims to Celebrate City, Boost Local Economy Education Fusion Academy: Childhood Narcissism and ADHD-Like Behavior Dr. Enrico Gnaulati, eminent psychologist and author of Back to Normal: Why Ordinary Childhood Behavior is Mistaken for ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, and Autism Spectrum Disorder, explains how this can happen and why it happens more often than you think! Dr. Gnaulati will be presenting at the Fusion Academy & Learning Center campus in Pasadena on January 19, 2014. By ENRICO GNAULATI, PH.D. Published on Wednesday, October 30, 2013 | 12:56 pm When I listen carefully to how parents describe their kid’s ADHD-like behavior, their descriptions often touch upon normal and not-so normal levels of childhood narcissism:• If he can’t solve a problem immediately, Jonah has a meltdown.• Maria is so emotional. When she’s calm she can focus and get homework finished. When she’s doing her drama-queen thing, forget about it. The night is a write off.• There’s no two ways about it, Jamal is a perfectionist. If he can’t do something perfectly, he avoids it like the plague.• It’s bizarre. Frank insists that he is a good planner, puts his full effort into his homework, and keeps track of when his assignments are due, when all the evidence is to the contrary. Is he a pathological liar? Maybe he is he suffering from amnesia or something?• At home Susan is fine. She gets her homework done and generally tows the line. But at school, her teachers say she is argumentative, zones out, and only applies herself if they continuously push her.• Michael will sit forever attempting to solve a problem with a questionable strategy rather than admitting to being confused and asking for help. He is so stubborn.• When things don’t go Gary’s way, he becomes real mean. Last week at soccer practice, a kid scored a goal against him when he was the goalie. He can’t shake it off. If I have to tell him one more time to stop calling that kid names, I’ll be locked up for what I end up doing.• Last year, Caley had a first grade teacher who really got her. Ms. Parker was so good at feeding her ego and giving her special help and attention. My ADHD kid turned into a normal kid that year and we took her off her meds! How about that! This year is a completely different story. She says her second grade teacher has it in for her. Every other day, she is sent home with behavior slips. We started her on meds again. What happened?• George just won’t shut up. The kid talks endlessly and is so needy for attention that I don’t know what to do. He won’t even let me go to the bathroom on my own. I am going out of my mind!• It is like I am a short-order cook. Samantha will stubbornly refuse to eat pasta one night, then the next claim it is her favorite dish. On her off days, I throw together a meal so she will eat something. She is wafer thin. Despite constant reminders to pick up her dirty clothes, I went upstairs last night only to find them strewn all over the floor. On top of this, just before bedtime she announced to me she had a science test she had not studied for. Welcome to my world!• During his regular school day when there is set structure and routines, Ernesto does fine. But in his after-school program, the daycare worker jokingly told me he acts like a Tasmanian Devil. He can’t handle unstructured play situations where the other kids are out there with their behavior and feelings. He seems to need a tame classroom environment where the other kids are calm and sit peacefully for him to behave right.Evidence of narcissistic struggles are nested in these snippets of information I have collected over the years in my work with kids who have been brought to me because of suspected ADHD. In my book, Back to Normal: Why Ordinary Childhood Behavior is Mistaken for ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, and Autism Spectrum Disorder, I painstakingly go through most of the core symptoms of ADHD and show how closely they resemble aspects of childhood narcissism. For now, let me give you a flavor of this approach by picking apart some of the examples I have provided.Take Jonah’s situation. He falls apart emotionally when unable to immediately master a task. One hypothesis is that this is a symptom of ADHD (not that a single indicator is positive proof of a disorder). Difficulties with retention of information needed to successfully execute a task—say the twelve-times table—may predispose Jonah to tear up his math sheet and storm out of the room. However, another hypothesis is that he demonstrates a good dose of magical thinking. He believes mastering tasks should somehow be automatic—not the outcome of commitment, perseverance, and effort. Jonah’s self-esteem also may be so brittle that it fluctuates greatly. For instance, when Jonah anticipates success, he productively cruises through work, eager to receive the recognition that he expects from parents and teachers. He is on a high. He definitely feels good about himself. Then in the face of challenging work, he completely shuts down, expects failure, outside criticism, and wants to just give up. He feels rotten about himself. His life sucks. Wild swings in productivity sometimes are evidence of nothing other than shaky self-esteem in kids. These are kids whose overall feeling about themselves is too dependent on outside praise and criticism. When they experience success, they believe they are outstanding individuals, yet when they experience failure, they believe they are worthless individuals.Does George’s incessant talking and invasive behavior suggest that he is neurologically compromised, or does his overriding need to be seen, heard, and recognized propel him to be annoyingly demonstrative?Does Michael’s refusal to abandon an ineffective problem-solving approach reflect difficulties with cognitive processing, or is acknowledging his limitations and reaching out for help experienced by him as intolerably weak?Does Samantha exhibit the disorganization commonly seen in ADHD children, or a sense of entitlement whereby she resists accommodating to the needs of others, believing that others should accommodate to her by giving her special dispensations?Caley’s dramatic downturn in classroom behavior may or may not be due to the reemergence of ADHD. Maybe the overarching issue is her struggle to be “one of the gang” in the classroom, whereby sacrificing her personal autonomy to fit in and comply with rules and routines seems psychologically out of reach?Does Ernesto have impulse control problems or are his emotional boundaries underdeveloped? Does he absorb the feelings of those he comes into contact with in ways that disorganize and frazzle him?For that matter, does Gary have impulse control problems, or does he have a proverbial chip on his shoulder, quick to retaliate against those who shame him?When we truly listen to parents and refrain from shoehorning their descriptions into nifty behavioral phrases, overlaps begin to emerge between ADHD phenomena and childhood narcissism. To truly tease apart what is a bona fide case of ADHD, rather than evidence of typical narcissistic behavior in kids, takes time, sensitivity and rock-solid awareness of childhood developmental tendencies. If we confuse the one for the other, kids may be unnecessarily put on medications and be deprived of the outside help they need to bolster and stretch their emotional development.Excerpt from Back to Normal: Why Ordinary Childhood Behavior is Mistaken for ADHD, Bipolar Disorder, and Autism Spectrum Disorder/ Enrico Gnaulati Ph.D., Beacon Press, 2013.Dr. Gnaulati will be presenting at the Fusion Academy & Learning Center campus in Pasadena on January 19, 2014.Dr. Enrico Gnaulati is a Columbia University educated psychologist in Pasadena who specializes in child and adolescent assessment and therapy, and parenting consultation. He has published widely on topics related to child development and children’s mental health in professional journals as well as in The Atlantic, Salon.com, and Alternet.org; and he has been featured on KPCC and other media networks.See more at: http://blog.fusionacademy.com/featured/childhood-narcissism-and-adhd-like-behavior/#sthash.j2tA0Xvb.dpuf Top of the News Your email address will not be published. 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Life Saving ‘Click It Or Ticket’ Mobilization Begins

first_img Top of the News faithfernandez More » ShareTweetShare on Google+Pin on PinterestSend with WhatsApp,Virtual Schools PasadenaHomes Solve Community/Gov/Pub SafetyPasadena Public WorksPasadena Water and PowerPASADENA EVENTS & ACTIVITIES CALENDARClick here for Movie Showtimes Public Safety Life Saving ‘Click It Or Ticket’ Mobilization Begins Pasadena Police Department Kicks Off High Visibility Enforcement From STAFF REPORTS Published on Tuesday, May 13, 2014 | 2:59 pm First Heatwave Expected Next Week Subscribe Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Get our daily Pasadena newspaper in your email box. Free.Get all the latest Pasadena news, more than 10 fresh stories daily, 7 days a week at 7 a.m. More Cool Stuff Name (required)  Mail (required) (not be published)  Website  Business News Community Newscenter_img Home of the Week: Unique Pasadena Home Located on Madeline Drive, Pasadena Pasadena Will Allow Vaccinated People to Go Without Masks in Most Settings Starting on Tuesday Pasadena’s ‘626 Day’ Aims to Celebrate City, Boost Local Economy Community News HerbeautyWho Was The Hollywood ‘It Girl’ The Year You Were Born?HerbeautyHerbeautyHerbeautyRobert Irwin Recreates His Father’s Iconic PhotosHerbeautyHerbeautyHerbeautyStop Eating Read Meat (Before It’s Too Late)HerbeautyHerbeautyHerbeauty5 Things To Avoid If You Want To Have Whiter TeethHerbeautyHerbeautyHerbeauty15 Countries Where Men Have Difficulties Finding A WifeHerbeautyHerbeautyHerbeautyThese Are 15 Great Style Tips From Asian WomenHerbeautyHerbeauty Make a comment EVENTS & ENTERTAINMENT | FOOD & DRINK | THE ARTS | REAL ESTATE | HOME & GARDEN | WELLNESS | SOCIAL SCENE | GETAWAYS | PARENTS & KIDS Pasadena Police Department wants to remind motorists to Click It or Ticket. In order to enforce this reminder, beginning Monday, May 19th, officers will be joining in the 2014 national seat belt enforcement mobilization and cracking down on motorists who are not belted.Even with a seatbelt usage rate of 97.4 percent, California still has 800,000 or more who aren’t buckling up. In a crash, they stand a 50 percent greater chance of being killed than those who have taken the two seconds to buckle in. In an on-going effort to reach those remaining safety hold-outs, police, sheriff and the California Highway Patrol (CHP) departments across the state will be taking part in Click It or Ticket from May 19 through June 1.“Memorial Day weekend kicks off summer vacation season, and we want to ensure that everyone arrives at their destination safe and sound,” said Pasadena Police Chief Phillip L. Sanchez. “If you are not wearing your seat belt, you will be ticketed.”According to new data released from the Department of Transportation’s National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA), fatalities are up nationwide for the first time in five years. In 2012, 10,335 people who were killed in motor vehicle crashes were not wearing their seat belts. NHTSA data also details how more traffic vehicle deaths occur at night. In 2012, 61 percent of passenger vehicle occupants killed during the nighttime hours of 6:00 p.m. – 5:59 a.m. were not wearing their seat belts.“Wearing a seat belt is one of the easiest and best things you can do to protect yourself in the event of a car crash,” said Rhonda Craft, Director of the California Office of Traffics Safety. “Taking a few moments to properly secure yourself and all your passengers before going on your way could mean the difference between life and death.”The cost for a seat belt violation in California for unbuckled vehicle occupants over age 16 is a minimum of $161 for a first offense. The penalty fees for failing to properly buckle up any child under the age of 16 is a minimum $490 per child for a first offense, plus a violation point will be added to the driver’s record. If the parent is not in the car, the driver gets the ticket.For more traffic safety information, visit the California Office of Traffic Safety at www.ots.ca.gov or the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration Click It or Ticket mobilization, www.nhtsa.gov/ciot. 3 recommended0 commentsShareShareTweetSharePin it last_img read more

The Top 25 Women of Law, Part 1

first_imgHome / Daily Dose / The Top 25 Women of Law, Part 1 Governmental Measures Target Expanded Access to Affordable Housing 2 days ago Governmental Measures Target Expanded Access to Affordable Housing 2 days ago in Daily Dose, Featured, News, Print Features Previous: New York AG Leads the Fight Against Zombie Homes Next: Jeffrey Axelrod Joins Riivos Mortgage as Group Executive The Best Markets For Residential Property Investors 2 days ago Demand Propels Home Prices Upward 2 days ago Editor’s note: This feature originally appeared in the January issue of DS News.From breaking through the glass ceiling to fighting for the rights of their clients, these formidable women lawyers have made their mark in the industry. In the first of this three-part series, we spotlight the accomplishments of these women in law.DAWN ALLI Randall S. Miller & Associates – VP  of Operations – Default ServicingNumber of Years Practicing Law: 24There’s never a dull moment at a financial services law firm, according to Dawn Alli, VP of Operations at Randall S. Miller & Associates. Her unique perspective comes from years of work both within default services law firms and working directly with servicers, running operations for US Default Management. “My past experiences have assisted me in developing streamlined procedures that not only keep the law firm operating at peak performance but also assure our clients that we are a true and trusted partner,” Alli said. Her unique experience has helped her to separate Randall S. Miller & Associates from the competition by focusing on the needs of clients while maintaining excellence in positive office culture, timeline management, and compliance. Looking ahead to 2019, Alli said she believed that efficiency and technology are the keys to maintaining excellence while staying on top of an ever-evolving industry._______________________________________________________________HEIDI B. CAREYRiley Pope & Laney, LLC – Managing Partner of Default ServicesNumber of Years Practicing Law: 24To Heidi Carey, the most enriching part of her job is the interaction with clients and their customers, the judiciary, and employees. “I see my job as an attorney to bridge the gap between our client’s business needs and how to get it done through the court system,” Carey said. Though at times her job can be challenging, Carey enjoys figuring out the puzzle of problem-solving through the court system. She’s dedicated to improving her firm’s internal processes for efficiency and accuracy. “Another great part of the job is being the face of our client in the courtroom. In default cases, I always try to talk to debtors prior to the hearing to explain what is happening and put them at ease in front of the judge. Most debtors have not been in a courtroom before and are appreciative of my respect and courtesy,” Carey said. Though Carey has worked her way up to being a partner in her firm—a feat that she counts as a career highlight—she didn’t always set out to be an attorney. In college, Carey majored in cello performance with a minor in business. Once she decided that she did not want to be a cello teacher, she decided to give law school a try. “My first semester was a big wake-up call after being a musician! After I figured out the game of law school, I did well and ended up working for a mortgage servicing company prior to entering private practice representing lenders in 2001,” Carey shared._______________________________________________________________MAGALIE A. CREECH Finkel Law Firm LLC – Member – Civil Litigation, Bankruptcy, Lender Liability, Real Estate, Business LitigationNumber of Years Practicing Law: 8Magalie A. Creech has been with Finkel Law Firm LLC for more than 10 years, first starting out as a summer law clerk. During those years, she not only learned about the practice of law but also came to discover how important it is to be part of a dedicated and reliable team. Given the sensitive nature of the information the firm handles, it is critical to have a team of dependable, conscientious employees. This can be especially challenging in a field where the regulatory and policy landscape is constantly evolving. Creech is thankful to be part of a talented group of professionals whose collective experience handling a broad spectrum of regulatory and litigation issues qualifies them to offer comprehensive legal representation. “I consider them family, and that is what makes my legal practice so rewarding,” Creech said. Creech practices in the litigation division of the Finkel Law Firm and manages the firm’s creditor bankruptcy department. She represents national banking associations and loan servicers state-wide in commercial and real property-related litigation, with an emphasis in contested foreclosures, bankruptcies, debt collections, and real estate matters. She also handles a variety of civil litigation in both state and federal court. Creech received her Juris Doctorate from the Charleston School of Law in 2010, graduating cum laude, and was admitted to the South Carolina Bar the same year._______________________________________________________________ELIZABETH CRUIKSHANK Cruikshank Ersin, LLC – Attorney – PropertyNumber of Years Practicing Law: 16Elizabeth Cruikshank ranks helping people, finding solutions to problems, learning new things, and being in court among the best aspects of her job. These passions make her uniquely equipped to handle the challenges of the mortgage market. Cruikshank sees more of these challenges on the horizon, in the form of a rise in foreclosures, bankruptcies, and evictions. She has also noticed a decline in new homeowners and an uptick in renters. To meet these obstacles, Cruikshank has found education to be the key to staying on top of new legislation. Cruikshank has seen her firm expand from one state to four in the Southeast, as well as increasing their areas of focus to include default work, litigation, and collections, among others. Cruikshank Ersin, LLC, now handles legal needs in Georgia, Florida, Tennessee, and Mississippi. While these tasks may seem daunting for some, for Cruikshank it’s all part of a lifelong dream. “I have wanted to be an attorney since I was five years old and can’t imagine doing anything else. Being a direct descendant of Thomas Jefferson—I think it is just in my blood,” Cruikshank noted. Along with Abby Ersin, Cruikshank founded her firm based on the core principles of always returning phone calls; keeping the client up to date on all pending matters; listening first; working with clients, not against them; and being enthusiastic and passionate about the firm._______________________________________________________________LEISHA DELGADO Hello Solutions – Owner – Default ServicingNumber of Years Practicing Law: 5“I’ve always felt proud to be a successful woman in a historically male-dominated industry,” said Leisha Delgado, Owner of Hello Solutions. She added that “my passion for the legal aspect of mortgage grew out of a keen interest in the complexities and cyclical nature of the industry. Initially focused on resolving title issues, I developed strong and meaningful relationships in the default servicing space.” During her time in the industry, Delgado has become exceedingly familiar with the ongoing volatility in the area of default servicing. She assists her clients in meeting this challenge by developing efficiencies that support scalability and innovation. Delgado noted that the industry can best face 2019 by working to streamline processes through technology and develop partnerships that alleviate distractions, so lenders and servicers can focus on core competencies. No stranger to flourishing in the face of adversity, Delgado survived a battle with stage 3 breast cancer this year amidst growing her business. Her warrior spirit has served her both professionally and personally. “Helping my clients grow their business despite the current climate aligns with my mentality as a breast cancer survivor. I believe integrity, hard work, and customer-centricity go a long way,” Delgado said, and it is this determination and passion behind Hello Solutions that has led to her clients’ evolving success._______________________________________________________________MARCY FORD Trott Law, P.C. – Managing Attorney – Mortgage Default, BankruptcyNumber of Years Practicing Law: 25Marcy Ford counts herself lucky that her job allows her to be both a problem-solver and an advocate. “I still love working the nuanced case that others have given up on and figuring out how to break it down and look at the facts from a legal, compliance, and business-process perspective. Changing processes, filling in technology gaps, or simply increasing training to solve problems is the big payoff for me,” Ford said. Ford believes that it is Trott Law’s attention to detail, high ethical standards, and employment of some of the brightest legal minds that will ensure the firm’s future. She has made it a priority to be present and involved both locally and nationally so that her firm stays abreast of the communications that are vital to success. The highlight of Ford’s career has not been winning an individual case but rather being part of a growing and phenomenal practice that has stood the test of time and industry upheaval. “When volumes were high, we certainly faced challenges, but it was when volumes declined, combined with never-before-contemplated compliance standards, that Trott Law’s star really shined,” Ford said._______________________________________________________________JEANETTE F. FRANKENBERG Stern, Lavinthal & Frankenberg, LLC – Managing Member – Full-Service Default, Commercial and Real Estate Transactions, Commercial and Residential Leasing, Bankruptcy, Commercial and Consumer Finance, Evictions, REO, Environmental Law, Land Use and Development, Commercial LitigationNumber of Years Practicing Law: 31Jeanette F. Frankenberg, a leader in the default and REO arena, is the Managing Member of Stern, Lavinthal & Frankenberg, LLC, the only solely woman-owned full-service default law firm in New Jersey. She attributes her success to her strong business acumen, hands-on enthusiasm, and forward-thinking approach in an ever-evolving field. “We continually invest in programming enhancements to create processing efficiencies, quality control checkpoints, and cutting-edge data security. These enhancements result in a superior product with cost savings for our clients,” Frankenberg said. Frankenberg is a formidable force in the industry who will never settle for the status quo. She understands servicers’ requirements and continuously adapts to meet their needs. Presently, she is pursuing controlled expansion into new jurisdictions beyond New Jersey. This strategic growth will allow Stern, Lavinthal & Frankenberg, LLC, to bring its experience and innovation to a broader audience without sacrificing quality product and service._______________________________________________________________MICHELLE GARCIA GILBERT Gilbert Garcia Group, P.A. – Managing Attorney – Real Estate, Business, ProbateNumber of Years Practicing Law: 32Michelle Garcia Gilbert told DS News, “It sounds cliche, but helping people, whether it be clients, colleagues, family, or friends, motivated me to become an attorney.” While most of her work now involves representing businesses and executives, she continues to handle pro bono cases, especially for special needs adults, the homeless, and military veterans. To Garcia Gilbert, her dedication to her work at the firm is about more than just the ins and outs of the legal practice. “My highlight has a different twist,” she said. “I am the mother to six children—five daughters and one son—and my career has allowed me to raise my children in their faith and education.” To adjust to today’s challenging legal landscape, Gilbert Garcia Group looks for other business opportunities, such as networking with note-buyers and signing up for local referral programs. They have also launched other non-law businesses, such as leasing co-working space in a segregated part of their building, and they are looking to set up a commercial kitchen to lease to catering companies. To assist their lender and servicer partners, her firm relies on technology. “The use of technology to continuously streamline processes in legal proceedings enures to clients seeking to reduce legal expenses while allowing firms to provide the best legal services where needed,” Garcia Gilbert said. Radhika Ojha is an independent writer and copy-editor, and a reporter for DS News. She is a graduate of the University of Pune, India, where she received her B.A. in Commerce with a concentration in Accounting and Marketing and an M.A. in Mass Communication. Upon completion of her masters degree, Ojha worked at a national English daily publication in India (The Indian Express) where she was a staff writer in the cultural and arts features section. Ojha, also worked as Principal Correspondent at HT Media Ltd and at Honeywell as an executive in corporate communications. She and her husband currently reside in Houston, Texas. 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